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"Happy holiday, happy holiday, happy holiday, while the merry bells keep ringing..."


It's so important to be kind to yourself and to respect your need to feel good during these strange times that we are all learning to adapt to. I have found that time and time again what I put on can go a long way to affecting how I feel about myself and my mood.


I know that a beautiful sparkly sweater can make me feel bright and cheery just by looking at it, or the simple act of changing out of my jeans into my work-out pants can lighten my step. I have also been amazed at how clothing can impact others. A Zoom call recently in a classy plaid sweater jacket became a great ice-breaker and got people chatting and smiling as they connected on something festive.


I would love to know what your experience has been. What gets and keeps you in high spirits? For me aside from what I choose to wear, another big factor in moving and keeping my spirits in a zone of positivity is consistent and quality exercise. If I’m down one of the first things I do is get my body moving. In particular, I absolutely love to dance, but recently I have seen that a great HIIT cardio workout can do won

Speaking of goals, recently we launched our BB ruffle dress in a beautiful Christmas red and this was a big check-mark on my list for the last little while. I’d love for you to check it out, try it on – to let me know how you feel in it. My goal was to make you feel beautiful and feminine. Another big goal this year was to finally open our own BB design studio and production facility which we did in August. This was a momentous moment for our brand and we hope that you enjoy the locally Canadian made designs coming your way!


As we move into this festive season I invite you to tune into the inner you, to find out what moves you, what brings you to a “higher vibration” and what keeps you there.


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As we approach Mother’s Day, I find myself asking exactly what is it to be a mother? Is it that when you come out the other side you are a better person as your children have diligently shaved off your rough edges each and everyday? Is it the wide emotional spectrum we experience? Or perhaps is it better summed up in experiences and moments?


This picture here is from a couple of years ago when I was pregnant with our second child but it’s still one of my favourite pictures. It’s one of the most joyous little moments I’ve had with my intense, intelligent, independent daughter and it was over in a snapshot. My very talented friend from Shanna DaSilva Photography was able to skillfully capture that moment and many others while my two-year old ran around and generally refused to have her photo taken.


In these last few weeks I’ve had to adapt once again as many mothers have had to, to a different or perhaps more enlarged role. I am now a teacher, full-time daycare provider and pastor to my children. I never trained as an early childhood educator, nor ever planned to be with my children 24/7 however here I am. I am constantly in shock at the sheer rollercoaster ride of emotions I go through each and every day as a mother. I can go from bubbly happy, to raging angry, to chirpy patient within 120 seconds. Then stand awestruck as to where the lion came from or how I even managed to get it under control again. I cry when I consider how at any moment I may be randomly exterminated and may not be there for their moments of need, and laugh at the mind-boggling crazy moments I have where I say things that previous to having children I would never have dreamed of saying like: don’t put your foot in the potty, or please try not to eat lady-bugs.


I am often in wonder as well. Humorously, at how I made it through yet another day while being massively sleep-deprived, or for example how my two children can both love and dislike each other in the same moment. A hug in one second, to a disparate scream as my toddler son wreck’s my 4-year old’s creation for the umpteenth time that day. It’s a miracle really that humans can live under the same roof, and here we are. Not built for isolation, nor built for constant contact.


As a mother I have also learned a lot. One of the practical takeaways is the importance of getting enough quality sleep. I cannot be at my best for my family otherwise. Another thing I’ve learned is to not feel guilty for my desire to be productive beyond caring for my children, nor for accepting that in order to be my best self for them that I need to take a little bit of time each day for me. My physical and mental health is important I have learned - ignore it at my family’s peril.


I have also learned to work hard to be present, to take in all of the small glorious moments that make up a life worth living. Like the tender moment of holding your baby for the first time and fondly taking in every last detail of their precious little face. The celebratory moment that only a parent can partake in with the human they brought into the world when they go “pee pee on the potty” for the first time.

How about those big moments that you experience first-hand or that you’re there to guide your child through or celebrate with them? Their first words, first day of school, first award, first full-time job. The heartache when they experience a break up, the sadness when they experience loss. Their wedding day, a big career move, birth of their baby. The list is endless and the moments are priceless, practically impossible to quantify and qualify.


So on this Mother’s Day, I would like to ask how you will take a moment to honour both your mother and yourself? How will you honour that fantastic and fierce multi-faceted woman in you called Mom, Mommy, Mama? Happy Mother’s Day.


Hugs,

Lorna


Updated: Apr 27

As we’ve seen our daily lives transform into a new normal, the large majority of us have had to adjust significantly, predominantly to a life which revolves around the home. Aside from the usual, we now work from home, homeschool at home, and socialize at home in a virtual format. This can lead one to be drawn to get up later, stay in their jammies well into the afternoon, and carry around a mug of coffee for most of the day never fully committing to the day at hand.


While staying in your PJs some days is okay, doing so everyday is bad for your mental health and overall mood. Although it may be more comfortable you think, it doesn’t get your mind prepared to fully engage with the day. After working from home for well over a year now, I have learned the importance of sticking to a routine, I mean actually following through, not just having a plan. Simple things like getting up by 6:30am, washing your face, putting on a bit of makeup (for those of us who consider it part of our “armor” and enjoy it), eating breakfast, setting the kids up for an awesome homeschooling day all before 9am… all of these small details set the stage for you to have a productive day. It’s also just as important to choose clothes that make you feel good – clean, professional, comfortable, competent – so that you have no problem jumping on a video-call or making a video for that matter for your customers.


Choosing something that is a true expression of you and that brings out the best version of you is paramount. I doubt very much that your jammies are a true expression of you, or rather, what you want the world to interpret as the real you. Respect yourself and get dressed for success even if it is currently within the confines of your own home. You define yourself and are in charge of your future.


Take charge, get up, and get dressed.


- Lorna


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